Monday, June 26, 2017

In Dating: SP Seeks SP, SJ Seeks SJ, NT Seeks NF, NF Seeks NT - Do Likes Attract? Or Opposites Attract?

Men and women who were primarily novelty-seeking, energetic, curious and creative were statistically significantly more drawn to those who shared these traits, while those who were primarily conventional, cautious and rule following were also drawn to individuals like themselves. But those who were more analytical, tough minded, direct and decisive were disproportionately attracted to their opposite, those who were imaginative, intuitive, compassionate and socially skilled; and vice versa. In short, Explorers preferentially sought Explorers, Builders sought other Builders, and Directors and Negotiators were drawn to one another.

Explorers seem to map to SP (as in MBTI), Builders are SJ, Directors are NT, Negotiators are NF. If this is the case, are we really discussing a new model here? The difference is that this model seems to link the chemicals in us like estrogen to our type.

As per this article, Directors love debates. I think I would put it differently. Directors love to argue about things they feel strongly about. But they don't love debates where they are given a topic at random. Ellsworth Toohey once won a debate speaking for a topic when he was a student. He was challenged to now speak against the topic. He did and won again. He would never be a Director. You could never get Francisco D'Anconia (another Director) to speak for the topic "Money is the root of all evil. Even a Builder would never that. A Negotiator or an Explorer might.

In the movie Anniyan, the heroine (Sada) could not stand Ambi the hero. Ambi was a very strong J. Sada was a P, definitely not J.

Additional reading:

  1. http://www.more.com/relationships/dating-sex-love/when-love-meets-biology-4-personality-types-decoded?page=2 
  2. http://digitalcitizen.ca/y/
  3. http://edition.cnn.com/2007/LIVING/personal/11/12/o.love.types/index.html?iref=hpmostpop
  4. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1358941/Sexual-chemistry-How-brain-chemicals-divide-personality-groups-key-finding-perfect-love-.html
  5. http://socionist.blogspot.in/2009/04/helen-fishers-types-explorer-builder.html
  6. https://spreadhopelikefire.wordpress.com/2009/03/25/personality-types/: explorer is defined as sexual
  7. http://content.time.com/time/health/article/0,8599,1876113,00.html
  8. http://intjforum.com/showthread.php?t=14870
  9. http://www.alwanza.com/onlyRumors/personality.html

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