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Showing posts with label Blog. Show all posts

Thursday, July 27, 2017

Fading Memory, Social Awkwardness


the desire to retrospect does not change over time.”  “Instead, past experiences become less top-of-mind over time, and, as a result, people simply forget to remember.”These results are consistent with the view that actual retrospection is strongly dependent on the accessibility of the experience, which is aided by visible mementos 



Social Awkwardness: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_deal_with_social_awkwardness?utm_source=Greater+Good+Science+Center&utm_campaign=76246365fc-EMAIL_CAMPAIGN_2017_07_26&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_5ae73e326e-76246365fc-51673647

awkward people tend to see things differently, shining a spotlight of attention on parts of their perceptual world that others tend to look past. This means that they might spend hours poring over spec sheets for their computer, but miss the subtle cues—like foot-tapping or arm-crossing—that let them know someone is bored or impatient.  
The reasons for this difference lie in the brain. Neuroscience research suggests that awkward people—who are somewhat similar to people with “high-functioning autism” or Asperger’s Syndrome—have less activity in their “social brains” and require extra cognitive effort when interpreting social cues. This is not only difficult and draining for them; it can also cause anxiety, which is probably why awkward people sometimes choose to withdraw from social contact altogether...awkward people can be taught to pay attention to social cues like eye contact during conversations, and not interrupt when someone else is speaking.  
While awkward children may subconsciously say or do things that others will interpret negatively—such as correcting people’s grammar or strictly adhering to rules and routines (which helps them to function well, but can be perceived as inflexible)—parents can act as coaches, helping to point children to behaviors that will ease their social interactions...One way is by teaching their awkward kids manners—social expectations for dress, behavior, and talk that may not be obvious but can be learned and rehearsed.

Sunday, July 2, 2017

Markets and Fashion: A Close Parallel

I wrote a piece on the stock market since guruji had been insisting that I write (ever since she fell in love wih Chetan Bhagat)..

"This season we wont see many tops. there is a bell bottom.. And we will see a lot of shaking sideways. I foresee it going sometimes up, sometimes down.. Some days we will see red.. "

When I wrote this about the stock market, some fashion people approached me to ask if I could write regularly for them. What i thought was a masterpiece of market analysis... And people mistook it for a nice fashion article.. I was aghast.. Then realization struck.. I understood after countless hours of explanations to Femmo on Fashion and to Guruji on markets.. Both fashion and stock market analysis are kinda same.. Neither lends itself to rational analysis while there are millions of experts who purport to do exactly that.. The mistake the fashion people made was understandable..

I myself have predicted (quite accurately I would say) about Sensex and Nifty (Indian stock indices) based on what I saw in a remote corner in India. There were two numbers in the picture, the larger one indicates the BSE Sensex -30 and the smaller one refers to the broad based Nifty.)

In both Fashion and Stock Markets the discerning analyst (like me) keeps his eyes open and spots trends which catches the world by storm.. The losers look at the hemlines and charts and get hopelessly lost in them..

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5/8/10, 4:02 PM
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Monday, June 26, 2017

Search For Mr Right

This is a well written article (http://in.lifestyle.yahoo.com/love-sex/will-you-wait-for-mr-right-blog-1-marie-claire-india.html) on the search for Mr Right. Google may do well to address this too.


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4/16/11, 11:40 AM
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Trust In Relationships


More interesting ones: 





Human behavior is complex. If we cant understand it, we have to try through indirect routes. Determine the circumstances under which a person may behave in the way in which we have seen them behave. Then we sometimes get an idea of the circumstances surrounding the other person. Maybe we cannot do anything about it. But it sure helps us understand better.


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8/31/11, 1:18 PM
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Beautiful Article On Why Greeks And Turks Hate Each Other



Additional reading:

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3/27/17, 10:26 AM
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Sunday, June 25, 2017

A Lovely Blog

Its not often that I come across a lovely blog. A kind which is "unputdownable". This blog http://memories-and-musings.blogspot.com/2007/03/those-bygone-days.html and many other stories in it are of that kind. As a friend put it, it was like listening to your grandmother telling you stories. If you want to go back to India of the 1940s though 60's dont leave this blog. It's engrossing, fun. The author is wowowow.

I had earlier talked about a blog of a white woman being married to an Indian man

Published on
11/23/10, 1:13 PM
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Manali, Rohtang

I am not much of a fan of the beach having lived all my life in coastal areas. 

I love the mountains. Be it the green (lush) variety or the white (snow) variety. The air is pure, there isn't much crowd, you can hear the bids chirping (only in the green variety) and there is absolute sannata (silence) otherwise.

Today I came across a blog (http://manali2rohtangpass.blogspot.com/) which talks about a place that I love. Its about Manali, the Rohtang pass in the state of Himachal Pradesh in India. Himachal and Kashmir are the only places in India where you can ski.

I hope you find the link interesting.

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3/20/11, 10:50 AM
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Woman Writing For Men - Blog

The following are very interesting blogs written by women from Western countries. They seem to espouse thoughts that Eastern countries have divested themselves of recently.

Just wowed by this blog postthis postthis one on division of labor in society. Girls and boys emote differently, Are all women gold diggers, A survival guide for men in couple's therapy are other lovely posts from the same site.

Can a woman really feel so much empathy for men and look at things so objectively? What caused it? Amazing.


Some lovely quotes from the site:
  • "The old saying “Anger turned inward is depression” rings true for far too many men. The process of anger morphing into depression can be referred to as sublimation, a swapping of a supposedly unacceptable emotion for a more acceptable one in the eyes of our PC [politically correct] culture. The end result of that process is often suicide, and the therapeutic industry is directly implicated for some of those suicides by reason of its suppression of male clients’ anger."... "While we can agree that some expressions of anger move beyond healthy expression and into the rage-zone, these incidents often come on the tail of being ignored, perhaps serially and over a long periods of time when a man is expressing anger within more normal ranges. " - A lovely quote from https://www.avoiceformen.com/men/when-anger-is-legitimate/
  • "In fact what are the old demands of women’s roles?  Nurturing and caring, right? So just imagine for a moment putting women into a situation where they had to talk in ways that would show they were not nurturing and caring!  Would they have an easy time with that? "..."Therapy has evolved over the years to be friendly to women. Why?  Well, it’s pretty simple, women are the ones who come into therapy. Therapists will naturally move towards creating an environment that caters to and welcomes those who are showing up and paying!  This is one of the reasons that therapy is based on the more feminine ideas of who is relating to whom and who cares about whom.  This is the currency. This is what drives things.  In a more masculine environment the currency would more likely be who is governing whom or who is admiring or respecting whom.  These are very different spaces."..."Another problem that often surfaces is that of volume. Women have a very different threshold for determining when someone is yelling. Two men can be actively and politely arguing a point at what seems to them to be reasonable volumes but if that same tone and volume is used with their wives, she often claims he is yelling. This often frustrates the man no end.  He simply says, “I am not yelling.”  And in his mind this is the objective truth.  But remember when entering couples therapy your masculine rules and limits stop being applicable.  You have entered a more feminine space. The biggest danger of this dreaded “you are yelling” meme is that it is sometimes used when the man is making a very good point, a point that can’t be easily countered.  By claiming he is yelling the focus of the conversation shifts quickly and completely.  Now the focus is whether or not he yelled, and how hurt she is that he was yelling at her (remember the keyword is “caring”, a caring person wouldn’t yell).  Now the focus is off his point and instead centers on how hurt she is and his responsibility for it. This is a devastating development and leaves the man feeling ambushed, helpless and completely unheard. It also importantly lets her off the hook." from https://www.avoiceformen.com/men/a-survival-guide-for-men-in-couples-therapy-part-one/





Here is another (http://ccostello.blogspot.com/2007/04/welcome-to-my-blog.html) lovely one by a Jewish woman.

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Accession Of Kashmir To Pakistan

I read this news site from Pakistan - it's fairly unbiased. For the first time today I read this news item regarding Pakistan's "craven approach" towards the Kashmir issue.


Article 257 states that when the people of the state of Jammu and Kashmir decide to accede to Pakistan, the relationship between Pakistan and that state will be determined in accordance with the wishes of the people of that state. This language implies that any settlement other than one which provides for the accession of Kashmir to Pakistan would be unconstitutional.

What surprised me very much was this part that was quoted in the article from Pakistan's constitution. Interesting.

Also read:
http://Calmisc.blogspot.in/2013/11/posts-from-pakistan.html

Minority Treatment In Pakistan

This article is about the treatment of minorities in Pakistan. What I like about the author is the straightforward, direct nature of her thoughts - something I think is not commonly found anywhere, especially in Pakistan. 

Wednesday, June 21, 2017

Intelligence

Usually the standard of articles in Indian newspapers these days is fairly low (of the kind mentioned in an earliest post,  http://vbala99.blogspot.com/2011/02/analysis-lack-thereof.html). 

I read this article (http://blogs.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/O-zone/entry/who-is-really-intelligent) today. It was refreshing and absorbing.

A Person With ADHD


Very few people can talk about or admit to their own disorders or eccentricities. Sam Vaknin was another such person (http://samvak.tripod.com/). It makes things so much easier if we could acknowledge reality.

Monday, November 21, 2016

Kailash Manasarovar (KM)

A friend sent me this photo. Apparently when it was a special full moon - somewhere near Manasarovar at about 13000 ft altitude.




Here is a video.




A friend of mine once had visited the place and showed me photos and I fell in love with KM.

Here is a page dedicated to KM.

Tuesday, September 29, 2015

Some Very Interesting Blogs

Interesting blogs, not just blog posts, about manosphere. There are some quotes from some posts without permission.

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