Nice Painting

A friend gave me this link to a nice painting.

Pebbles And Boulders

This is a nice post that shows when pebbles (small problems) can create a lot of pain.

Pakistan Supreme Court

Good news at Pakistan.

Girl Cooks For Brother

Today I met a 15 yr old boy in a paan shop. His two cute sisters were with him. I was talking to the elder of the two sisters who said to me that when her parents aren't in town she cooks for her brother. She said she can cook dal, chawal, roti, sabzi (standard menu in north India). 

Hmm. Interesting. The girl is 8 years old and her younger sister about 6. And neither of them goes to school.

Lagniappe: https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=480458458646693&set=a.344275412264999.102276.344267635599110&type=1&theater

Even God Can Make A Mistake

A friend sent me this joke (alternate site). Nice one.

Tomar Singh Paan

As per this article, apparently guys who are ready to leave the life of "Jihad" are finding it difficult to get a normal job. What surprises me is the number of children each family has. Don't they think of having a small family and being  a good parent to fewer kids?

Which Trip

A friend sent me this joke 

An airline introduced A special package for business men. Buy your ticket get your wife's ticket free. After great success, the company Sent letters to All the wives asking how the trip was.

All of them gave the same reply..."Which trip?" "

Conclusion: It's the single girls who are going on all those trips. Don't trust them if they say they spend all their time shopping.

What Men Want

What men want and what they get. An equivalent saying exists in Tamil: "aasai irukku thaasil panna, adhirshtam irukku kazhudhai mekka" (Desire exists for a piece of ass, fate is to tend to, take care of, donkey).

Crime Patrol Video

This is an interesting episode from Crime Patrol. The video is in Hindi.

Working In A Call Center

A friend of mine works in an outbound call center. Her job is to call up potential customers (in a particular country outside India) and sell. She took up this job recently and was telling me about her work. She has not yet made a sale. She told me how rudely some people behave, how they hang up when they hear she is from India.

I thought about her problem. Though I myself dislike the job of selling, this was an interesting problem to me. I told her to listen to the audio recording of successful calls made by others in her company and see what they did differently. She did what I asked her to and told me that she picked up something from the audio recordings that might be of use to her. I also suggested how to handle the issue of xenophobia.

She told me then that she had, earlier in the day, spoken with another friend of hers and told him about her job. That person had told her that he was sure that my friend was good and she would be successful in making a sale the next day.

Now my friend reflected on the call with her other friend earlier in the day and on the call with me. She said she was very happy with the best wishes and hope that the other friend conveyed to her and that she was thrilled with what I said to her. 

That set me thinking. What was the difference in what her two friends said to her about the same event? One person conveyed hope. I conveyed a (very rudimentary) plan or an idea. 

A hope or faith is largely situation independent. "I hope that your current trouble is temporary. A nice / kind person like you does not deserve this. You will get out of this situation soon. Things will become better" - this can be conveyed whether you lost your job or your wife or you didn't make a sale or failed an exam. It does not need much thought. It needs a good heart. You hear the other person's problem and say "You poor dear, I hope that your current...". The other person feels good and becomes unstressed. He feels that you are a good friend, a person in need. This is a palliative. It doesn't remove the cause of the pain but it temporarily alleviates the pain. A palliative or painkiller has its own use.

An idea or a plan to solve the problem that someone is in needs a lot more thought and ability. One has to understand the problem, the persons involved, their traits and suggest a plan or idea that takes all of these into consideration. A good plan removes the cause of the problem and extricates the person from the problem. Not all of us have this ability. 

Now the interesting thing is that many people in difficulties aren't receptive to solutions. What they need is a palliative. And the palliative is so very easy to administer - just a standard set of phrases fits most situations with little tailoring. Yet some of us perhaps waste our time trying to find solutions, often ineffective, because we do not know the specific details of the difficult circumstance that the other person in. This often results in the other person playing the "Yes but..." game. What a waste of time! The soothing words that our mothers said to us when we hurt ourselves are so much better received. Which of us says "Yes but..." to a hope conveyed to us?

Sometimes it's better to keep our trap shut and let our heart speak.

Question to the reader: To which person would you provide hope and to which would you provide a solution (assuming you have the ability to do both)?

Interesting Internet And Mobile Trends

This is a nice (and large) presentation with statistics on internet and mobile trends.

Dont Drink And Drive

Dont drink and drive - see this.

Want A Job?

If you want to get hired, you have to pass the software test, as per this article. Apparently all applications are screened by software, so your resume and/or cover letter has to have the keywords mentioned in the job posting but not exactly copied and pasted. 

Eeeek. 

Why Men Hesitate To Propose

This is a very interesting article on when men are ready to pop the question and when they won't.

And this is another lovely article by the same author on why men don't ask for a 2nd date. A lovely quote from this article "Enjoy your life so much that you could be perfectly content not having a date or a boyfriend for a while. When you learn to love life while being single, love inevitably finds you."

This one is on neediness and being available. This one is on why a guy won't call you his girlfriend. And this one on why someone left without a bye.

Is he there only for sex? http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life-style/relationships/man-woman/Is-your-lover-into-you-only-for-the-sex/articleshow/44968462.cms

Nice Articles I Read Today

• A nostalgic article with photos about Kolkata
• Euro Cup 2012 Schedule
• Wow, 60 yrs of great royalty. What a phenomenal job the Queen Elizabeth has done!! She deserves the Nobel Prize (for Peace Or Physics?)
• Quid Pro Quidney, an interesting article on organ (kidney) exchange program
• An excellent article on the importance of belonging.
• Article on Atos, the software provider for  London Olympics
• A blog around Kolkata. Some very nice posts in this blog, especially the one on mother which has some touching videos and the one on a chemist.