Feeling Useful Vis-a-vis Feeling Used And Other Moral Dillemmas

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/ambigamy/200905/whats-the-real-difference-between-feeling-used-and-feeling-useful

Additional reading: 
Boys do not get the attention that girls do: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/real-men-dont-write-blogs/201603/its-killing-us-why-neglecting-boys-hurts-girls-too